This is a quote from the editor of Mothering Magazine, Peggy O’Mara. Peggy O’Mara’s writing is full of gems but this one really struck a chord in me the first time I heard it. I read it and just felt it in my heart.
I struggle, personally, with my quick, sharp tongue so this mantra is one I lean on regularly. I have a tendency to snap when I’m stressed, tired or feel pulled in a million different directions. (As a mother when do we not feel this way?) As my oldest child, now 3.5, has gotten older I have seen the sad look that crosses her face when my tone gets harsh or a comment isn’t carefully thought out. I try to cover quickly and smooth things over but the hurt is still there and it takes a little while for both of us to get back to normal. I don’t want to happen!
Think back to your childhood and the things you remember your parents saying and how they said it. Did that voice, a critical comment or the repeated labeling echo in your head years later? It’s so true!
I don’t want my nagging voice or rushed, negative energy to fill my children’s heads and have it echo there until they need years of therapy to erase it. I don’t want my tendency to be snappy when I’m stressed to impact the way they live their lives or think of themselves. Keeping this quote in my head as a mama mantra makes me think not only of what I say but how I say it – the tone, the sharpness, the lightness, the playfulness, the coolness or the warmth that carry my words to my child.
“The way you speak to your child becomes their inner voice” is one of the great mantras found in our first set of cards. I hope you find inspiration in it as it is one that I feel is especially helpful and meaningful.
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